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17 Jul

Employee Retention Dublin

Employee retention Dublin: Mental health is the biggest  cause of pay-out claims on an income protection plan, according to Irish Life.

The company has circa 200,000 people insured for income protection and more than 3,000 claims were paid out in 2015. Claims averaged €19,380 per year. Irish Life paid out €53m on income protection in 2015.

Income protection is an insurance policy that pays benefits when policyholders are unable to work due to illness or accident.

The figures show that the average claimant’s age was 49 for men, and 45 for women.

This cross-section of Irish workers mental health backs up research by Aviva in their Workplace Health Index. This found that stress and anxiety is the biggest problem in the Irish workplace today, with 55% of Irish employees struggling with it. See https://thomaslarkin.ie/workplace-stress-dublin/

Employee retention Dublin

These research studies on Irish workplaces show the underlying pressure on today’s Irish workers and is a big reason why there is pressure on employee retention in Dublin.

Reasons

The reasons for employee mental health difficulty is the obvious and the immediate: too much work pressure, time management etc. And it is correct to address them with things like yoga classes or mindfulness in the workplace.

But most often the reasons for mental health difficulty in work is NOT the obvious and the immediate. Most often, people don’t even have a vocabulary for what is going on in them.

Psychotherapy/Counselling in your workplace helps employees put a language on their issues, get to the roots of them so they can be more present and motivated at work on a long-term basis.

Cost-effective counselling

Either on site or externally, I can provide cost effective counselling to both staff and management in the Dublin area.

For a wider description of the psychological services I can offer, please see http://thomaslarkin.ie/counselling-for-business/

Or call me today to see how psychotherapy/counselling can work for your business.

 

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15 Mar

Workplace mental health Dublin

employee motivation

One-in-five days of employee absence in Ireland is due to workplace stress, anxiety and depression (SAD), according to the Economic and Social Research Institute (ESRI).

18% of lost productivity days are due to SAD and the average length of absence from it in 2013 is 17 days.

In 2013 alone, about 55,000 workers in Ireland were affected by work-related illness, resulting in a total loss of 790,000 productive days.

Employers body IBEC estimates that absenteeism costs Irish businesses as much as €1.5 billion a year, the equivalent to €818 for each employee.

Among the most commonly reported causes of stress are: no clear job description or chain of command, no reward for doing well, no way to voice complaints, too much responsibility with too little authority and job insecurity.

Why workplace counselling?

Psychotherapy/Counselling deployed in your company is an ideal way to address these underlying issues, freeing up employees to be more present and motivated at work.

Psychotherapy/counselling deals with the roots of stress and anxiety rather than just the symptoms. Providing training days on stress management or a yoga class for your workplace is like a wave on an ocean, it comes and goes but nothing really changes. Psychotherapy/counselling is about looking at the currents that influence the whole ocean, so the whole company moves forward.

Employees see counselling/psychotherapy as the key provision for employee wellbeing. 76% of Dublin workers feel there is a need for counselling in the workplace. (Irish Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, IACP, survey 2013)

Workplace mental health Dublin

Either on site or externally, I can provide cost effective counselling to both staff and management in the Dublin area.

For a wider description of the psychological services that I can offer to assist your workplace wellness, please see https://thomaslarkin.ie/counselling-for-business/

Or call me today to see how psychotherapy/counselling can work for your business.

 

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01 Feb

Therapist Supervision Dublin

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Therapist Supervision Dublin: Supervisees often come to supervision and feel they should talk of client material only and leave their own issues for their own therapy.

As a counsellor/psychotherapist is their work, the two are interwoven and in understanding ourselves as a person this sheds light on our work as a counsellor and how we are relating to our clients. A win-win situation.

Supervision is never purely about the clients and is never purely about the counsellor. It’s about both and the in-between.

Internal Supervisor

Teaching a supervisee to move from affective experience of the heart, to reflective experience in the head and back again within themselves helps them develop their own awareness of self and their ability to register the counter transference with their clients. This is the development of their own ‘internal supervisor’.

This skill helps the counsellor/psychotherapist develop those skills in the client, increasing client emotional intelligence and awareness.

Well known supervisors Page and Wosket write: ‘Personal issues can be legitimately addressed (in supervision) if it increases the potential of the client work. It is sometimes necessary to engage in what amounts to therapeutic work with the counsellor…this is legitimate within supervision provided that the purpose remains that of understanding the counselling process and the overall intention is to enhance the work being done with the client.’

Separating issues

Addressing a supervisees personal issues in supervision is also important when those issues are interfering with client work. Supervisor and supervisee would work to separate them and understand them enough to unblock the client work. Of course if the supervisees issues are substantial further personal therapy would be required if not already happening.

Therapist Supervision Dublin

For a wider description of how therapist supervision works, and to see my own availability for supervision, check out http://www.thomaslarkin.ie/counselling-supervision-dublin/

 

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13 Dec

Trauma Psychotherapy Dublin

Trauma Psychotherapy Dublin: The experience of trauma is about one thing; invasion.

Like a house with a garden surrounding it, our body has one boundary of our skin and another surrounding us that alerts us when our personal space is being encroached. This is why if someone is walking behind us we become aware of it quickly.

A traumatic experience is when these two boundaries are broken. Not only is this is a distressing experience but, in an on-going way, we also become highly anxious and lose our sense of safety and danger. We feel we are in danger all the time. Like a house alarm that is constantly ringing gets ignored, our instinct for when we are in danger becomes ineffective. Not being able to distinguish between safety and danger exposes us to further danger.

Why?

When we experience invasion, like a burglary, being hit by a car or sexual assault, our nervous system will ‘freeze’, called tonic immobility. Our brain and body will become suspended through the experience. This is our system’s anaesthetic, to protect us.

But, of course, everything in life is a double-edged sword. While it protects us, it leaves the experience in our body and mind UNPROCESSED. This leaves our body and mind reacting as if the experience IS STILL HAPPENING.

Trauma Psychotherapy Dublin

Trauma psychotherapy is about processing the charge left in our body/mind. This will put the experience back ‘outside’ of ourselves. In turn, this restores our personal boundaries and returning to us our sense of safety. Only when we know safety again can we distinguish between safety and danger. And only then can we protect ourselves properly, enhancing our sense of safety.

If this article resonates with you, or you have some questions, feel free to book an appointment with me.

 

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20 Sep

CBT for anxiety Dublin

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CBT for anxiety Dublin: Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) says you cannot THINK your way out of anxiety.

Often when clients come to CBT sessions they think there will be that ONE thought, phrase or insight that will stop their anxiety for good. It’s not the case.

The main component of anxiety is SPEED. When we are anxious our thoughts get faster and faster, this makes us more and more anxious.

Also, each thought is feeding on the fear of the last thought. Each thought is frightening the hell out of ourselves and making us MORE anxious.

Trying to think our way out of anxiety is like pouring petrol on the fire to put it out.

Imagining the worst

When we are anxious we look for the worst possible scenario so we can protect ourselves from it but in doing that we are actually scaring ourselves WITH  the worst possible scenario.

Our imagination can scare the hell out of us far more than the reality of things. This is how horror movies work. The unknown lurking horror is far more frightening than when the killer finally appears.

And the thing we find MOST scary is ‘forever’. There is an assumption that ‘I will be anxious forever’. When something seems endless, it’s the most frightening and dispiriting experience of all.

CBT for anxiety Dublin

In CBT sessions we learn to slow ourselves down so we can actually listen to ourselves. There is a part of us that is really frightened and we have to hear ‘what exactly am I frightened of?’

This work can be blocked when we ‘hate’ our anxiety. Then we are refusing to hear why we are frightened, making us MORE anxious and fracturing our relationship with ourself.

When we are finally able to listen and hear what our anxiety is about we start to come out of it.

Try CBT for anxiety in Dublin today.

 

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04 Jul

Panic Attacks Counselling Dublin

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Panic attacks counselling Dublin: Panic attacks are rushes or spikes in anxiety. We get flooded with it. But the key thing is it comes from inside us, not from the outside.

Clients often come to psychotherapy/counselling saying ‘I get panic attacks but there is nothing to be frightened of’. They are right, nothing is happening externally to make them anxious. What we are afraid of is the appearance of the anxiety itself from within ourselves. We are anxious about being anxious.

Anxiety beginnings

We either grew up in an anxious household or we experienced something in our lives that made us frightened, such as a car accident or health worries or any manner of frightening experience. If these experiences remain unprocessed the anxiety stays with us.

The longer it remains unprocessed, the more anxious it becomes. For example, if we were in a car accident with a red car, after some time, we can react with a lot of anxiety to the colour red. We get a spike of anxiety from the part of us that experienced the accident.

Soon our anxious self becomes more anxious about more things as it seeks to protect itself. As a reaction, clients often make their worlds smaller and smaller to avoid the anxiety, for example, they won’t go shopping. But the anxiety is within and it doesn’t matter what we stop doing, the unprocessed anxiety remains.

Panic Attacks Counselling Dublin

Psychotherapy/Counselling is particularly effective for panic attacks. In the therapeutic setting, space is given to the anxiety itself and, as it becomes processed, we feel less and less anxious about more and more things. Until we reach a stage where our anxiety is the more natural alarm bell for real external danger.

As our anxiety goes down, confidence goes up in exact relation, the two are interlinked.

Try psychotherapy/counselling for panic attacks in Dublin today.

 

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16 May

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder OCD Dublin

Obsessive compulsive disorder ocd dublin

Obsessive compulsive disorder OCD Dublin: OCD is about one thing – anxiety.

It is also displaced anxiety. Displacement is a defence mechanism where, not wanting to experience our original reason for being anxious, we substitute some other object or action. We don’t even do this consciously.

This is how someone who is very anxious could end up putting all their energy into cleaning. Obsessive cleaning is someone’s way of acknowledging that something needs to be cleaned up but it is actually the unfinished business of the original anxiety that needs to be cleaned out.

It snowballs…

So, no matter how much someone cleans, the original anxiety remains. Not only that, it gets worse with time. It snowballs as it’s being neglected. All the energy goes into cleaning, which is the classic displacement, and none goes into healing the original reason for the anxiety.

The cleaning gets more and more frantic with time as the original reason for the anxiety gets more and more neglected, like a wound that becomes infected.

So much time has passed, it can be we have forgotten the original reason for the anxiety. We have lost track of ourselves and, from this, people can often feel lost in their lives.

Obsessive compulsive disorder ocd Dublin

Psychotherapy/counselling is particularly effective for obsessive compulsive disorder ocd. In our sessions we would track back to the original anxiety and begin to give it a voice.

As the anxiety finds its voice, the anxiety itself goes down as it is finally getting the attention it needs. The anxious part of us finally feels safe enough to look at why he/she is anxious and, often times, it is never as bad as originally thought.

What made it worse was the ignoring of it.

Try psychotherapy/counselling for obsessive compulsive disorder ocd in Dublin today.

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04 Feb

Psycho Therapy

Psycho therapy

Counselling and psychotherapy and CBT are meant to help us develop an inner clarity so we can develop our lives from it. Great! First problem with accessing it is, how the hell do you spell it? For something that’s about clarity there are so many ways of mis-spelling what it is. Mis-spellings, I might add, which are my own.

Counsellor?

In my own search for a counsellor, I have looked for a ‘counseller’, a ‘counseler’, and some ‘counselors’. It’s just one of those really awkward words, lots of ‘L’, and ‘e’ and ‘o’.

The extension of that, counselling, is just as bad as I searched for ‘counseling services’, and ‘councelling’, and ‘councilling’. There are so many ways of getting this word wrong.

Psychotherapy has the unfortunate, and natural similarity, to ‘psycho therapy’ which does not invite trust in the profession, or the easy to make ‘physcotherapy’. Lots of ‘s’ and ‘y’ and where do they fit?

CBT anyone?

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is not much better. I have searched for ‘cognative’ and ‘cognetive’ – all a confusing mix of ‘a’ and ‘e’ and ‘i’; but behavioural is bewildering as in ‘behavioral’, ‘behaviourial’, ‘behavioral’, ‘behavour’, ‘behavoral’, a heady mix of ‘o’ and ‘u’ and ‘I’.

If you are looking for therapy, the first step is to get a Thesaurus – I had to spell check that too…

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24 Nov

Anxiety Counselling Dublin

anxiety counselling dublinThe experience of anxiety can be summed up in one word: Overwhelmed.

Either the experience is too big to process or our ability to cope with the experience is impaired. Either way, the experience stays with us and remains unprocessed. It takes mental energy to keep this experience unprocessed and the longer we have it, the more energy we use to keep it unprocessed. As time goes by, it gets heavier and heavier and we become overwhelmed. This leaves us with less and less energy for our present life. From this, we can withdraw further and further from our life.

Anxiety counselling is designed to help us process what was too big to process, freeing us up, reclaiming our energy, and enabling us to participate more fully in our lives. Anxiety counselling will also strengthen us, repairing our ability to cope with anxious situations and thus being able to process experience as it happens so we are not left carrying it in our lives.

Anxiety and depression

When we are overwhelmed for too long, the unprocessed experiences get heavier and heavier until, like a house overflowing with clutter, we collapse into depression.

We then experience anxiety from the inside. We are anxious of the unprocessed experiences within us. Clients sometimes say ‘I am anxious but there is nothing to be anxious of’. There is nothing to be anxious of externally, we are now anxious of what’s inside. And then we become anxious of the anxiety itself and so it spirals.

Anxiety Counselling Dublin

Like a horror film, the anticipation is the most frightening thing. When the monster actually appears it’s less frightening. Anxiety counselling helps us process our fears and, in my experience, the real experience of our anxiety is NEVER as bad as you imagine, anticipate or expect. But processing our fears actually reduces anxiety and boosts confidence.

Try anxiety counselling in Dublin today.

 

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22 Jul

Supervision for Counsellors Dublin

Supervision for counsellors Dublin

Supervision for counsellors helps develop their skills as a therapist as well as protecting them from the emotional impact of their work. A counsellor literally is their work so developing and protecting themselves is key.

The fundamental task of counsellor supervision, according to Patrick Casement, is the development of the internal supervisor within the supervisee. He describes it:

Spontaneous reflection

“Therapists need to acquire their own capacity for spontaneous reflection within the session…They can thus learn to watch themselves as well as the patient…(from) the mental space within which the internal supervisor can begin to operate…I believe that the process of supervision should develop into a dialogue between the external supervisor and the internal supervisor. It is through this that therapists develop the more autonomous functioning expected of them.”

In this way, the supervisee develops the self awareness around their own work both to enhance their skill and to register the emotional impact a client is having on them.

Burnout

Supervision for counsellors is a space to process the feelings left in them from their clients as well as seeing what it triggered in them personally. Doing this protects the counsellor from burnout and stress. Burnout comes from being overloaded and can lead to ‘compassion fatigue’. So counsellor supervision is a restorative process to replenish emotional energy through debriefing and emotional containment.

Supervision for Counsellors Dublin

For a wider description of how counsellor supervision works, and to see my own availability for supervision, check out http://www.thomaslarkin.ie/counselling-supervision-dublin/